At my church every year the youth take an oath of purity meaning we won't have sex until we are married. What happens is every March all the youth willing to make the commitment get up in front of the church with either their parents or a sponser. We say an oath and then our parents or sponser say something and give us a ring. On our wedding night we are supposed to give that ring to our spouse and show them we have abstained and waited our whole life for them. For the past 3 years I've taken the oath. And I will continue until I am married. Some people say, "What if that person never comes? That's a long time to wait." But you can really be respected if you wait for the right person, who will come along even if it takes time.

TH (Age 14), Lynn, Ma

all right guys this is a weird story but hey some females may feel like how i do. all right i met this guy back in march- my girls introduced me to him and his friends. we all spent time together having fun and staying up late. He was trying to flirt with me and i knew what he wanted. two of my girls began dating two of his friends and one day we all were in his car so my two friends were kissing their boyfriends and me and him were just sitting there and then he began touching me and kissing on my neck. i told him "i'm not like that, i'd rather go out with you than have you act like i'm like other girls." so he realized what he did wrong and said we should get to know each other.

ap (Age 16), dorchester, MA

Three years ago when I was 14, I was going out with this guy for 6 months and I thought (knew!) that I was so in love with him, but I wasn't sure if he loved me. He wanted to have sex and I agreed that I would do it. When the time came for us to do it, something held me back and I couldn't go through with it. I'm glad that happened, because two weeks later we broke up and he started going out with this other girl who had sex with him right away. They were together for two years before she dumped him for another guy and now he's all alone. Right now I'm with this guy that I've been with for 13 months and we both love each other very much. We are both virgins, and are waiting to have sex.

S L (Age 17), Boston, Massachusetts

This on time I went out with this boy, and he always wanted me to have sex with him but I wasn't ready for that, so I told him that I wasn't ready to go to that level. He ended up breaking up with me over a stupid reason just because I wouldn't have sex with him- I was so happy and relieved that we broke up.

V.p. (Age 16), Mattapan,MA

I was in love with a guy who was just unexplainable. That's how great it was. He really didn't pressure me 2 have sex, but when he did I didn't said "no" and just did it without second thoughts because I knew he wouldn't hurt me. But now it was a lie and he treats me different. Now I don't see him no more. I regret it and I wished I waited.

abb (Age 16), nassau,new providence

Last year I went to New York for the summer. My cousin's boyfriend introduced me to his friend. The guy was practically perfect. He bought me presents, called me everyday, and took me out on good, expensive dates. Then one hot day, he called my house and said it was an emergency. When I got there {rushing/running}, he started laughing. Then he said he just wanted to spend time with me. I thought it was cute so I stayed. Next thing I knew we were kissin in his bed. I told him I wasn't ready 2 have sex, but he said he loved me and that he would love me 4 ever. Then I said o.k. and we had sex. The next day I tried to call him and then I decided to go to his house, but my cousin's boyfriend told me he had left for Florida. Til this day I remember his fake words, "I love you and I will love u 4 ever." Now I regret ever even talking to that creep.

T.G (Age 13), lawrence, MA

My whole life changed when I met a guy about 3 years older than me. I knew my mom wasn't gonna let me go out with him. So I decided not to tell no one I met him. The only way I could see him was if I sneak out of the house. I liked him a lot so I always did what he asked me to do. Before the end of summer we ended up having sex 3 times. He used me in a way that now I wish I had never met him. He told me I would make him really happy if I gave him a baby. Next thing you know I ask him what will he do if I was pregnant, and he told me "Give it away, or don't have it". Thanks to God I didn't get pregnant. My mom actually found out because she found a pregenancy test in my room so she asked me if I was having sex and I told her everything. Now, my boyfriend doesn't want to see me or talk to me. Its been weeks and I don't know nothin about him.

a.s (Age 14), Boston, MA

When i went to high School i thought that i was goin to be single for the rest of my life. Than when i arrived there was this boy that i had a crush on. Comes to find out that he likes me too. So me and him decides to go out. We went out for about 17 months and we thought we were in love. So he decides that we should start having sex.To me this wasn't too good for me cause i was a virgin and he's not. So he questions me over and over until i told him I would. But when that day came i told him no and he got very upset and started calling me names and started hitting me. Then after that i knew that me and him couldn't be together and today we are no longer together.

em (Age 16), boston mass

I am 14 years old and I go out with this boy who's name is R. He told me that I should have sex with him and I told him that he was not worth my virginity. He said everyone else is doing it. I told him that he would not have any problems finding another person to 'do it' then. He said that he was sorry and he will respect my feelings.

C.L (Age 14), Dorchester Masschusetts

Hey...I want to thank you for comin to the school and openin up my eyes...and showin me how to say no and to set limits...I was goin with a guy for about 5 months when I just had enough with the touchy feely moments....I told him that we were through and he still thinks that "sorry" will cut it but when you say "no" and say "no"...and "leave me alone"...you get mad and aggravated and have to leave. it is irratating...but I have recently found a new guy that I like. He is a gentleman and opens the door which I'm not usta.... thanks for opening up my eyes that were in denial.

KK (Age 15), Marshfield, Ma.

i went to my boyfriends house. he said he had friends over and he wanted me to come over. i went over there no one was there. we started kissing. he then got a little touchy and he started to take my clothes off. i really liked him and i thought he felt the same way. but after we had sex he broke up with me. he moved on to another girl and never spoke to me agian. it really hurts me to see him walking down the street and acting like it neva happen. i regret everything.

NW (Age 13),

i really liked this guy. he seemed really nice. he was cute, smart, funnny. all of the perfect qualities. until we had a relationship. sex to me was always a big deal and i told myself that i would never do it unless i was in love. well with him i knew i was. we had sex and as soon as it was over it was like right then and there i wasn't respected anymore. he didnt treat me like that one person that could make his whole day happy. we continuted on in the relationship and sex was just a usual thing. i kept telling myself that he loved me and that he was just going through a phase. but he wasn't. the day i knew that it was a mistake was when i found out about "her". he had been cheating on me for a while now and was just using me for sex. right then and there i ended it.

kh (Age 17), san diego, california

I thought he cared, but in reality all he wanted wuz the "goodies"...I mean I really liked him and I don't know why...There wuz just something about him. Recently I started talking to one of my cousin's friends and he was telling me everything I wanted to hear...That I was beautiful, the one for him, and stuff like that. Then one day I went to his house and one thing led to another and we had sex. I saw him a few days later and he just walked by me like I didn't even exist. Then he called me and I tried to ignore him, but I fell for it again. So after the second time I finally stood up for myself and said "No, you're not going to treat me like a doormat". And now when he tries to have sex with me again, I continue to tell him "NO!"

SC (Age 14), Dorchester Mass

I lost my virginity a couple of months ago. I feel like I haven't been the same since. It feels like I'm missing something. The guy I had sex with was a great person...while we were together. After we broke up, he immediately got another girlfriend and they both began to spread nasty rumors about me involving my body and my relationship with him. It was the worst month of my life. I was labeled and I felt so dirty and guilty for what I had done. He used me, and I couldn't see that. Just be careful. Make the right decisions, it's something you can never get back.

DF (Age 15), Acton, MA

At first he was so wonderful, he acted just the way he knew I would like him to. But we weren't going out yet, then a month later, I heard that he had a girlfriend. And he didn't even bother telling me. So guys imagine if I had been foolish enough to go out with him and made him be my first. So don't be stupid enough to let something so precious as your virginity be taken away by somebody that isn't really worth it. Be wise, and wait.

tfa (Age 17), Brooklyn ,NY

I had a boyfriend for almost 2 years we had agreed not to have any sex until i was ready. he was 1 year and a half older then me. one day we were at his house and we started making out in his room. things got escalated and we ended up on his bed and then i realized i still wasn't ready so i stopped. luckily he was understanding. we had many more of those occurences but to the day i still havent [had sex with him] and i'm glad

M.A aka Chuchy (Age 14), chelsea,ma

I've definitely fallen in love before, about two years ago. Sadly, that didn't last too long, only long enough for me to have my heart broken. Since then, its been a string of one-night stands and in general a lot of stupid craziness. But now I've met someone nice, and fallen in love. It started off really slow and I wanted to end up being her friend at first. Well, at first, I wanted to have sex with her, but then I realized I couldn't, that I would just be hurting her and myself in the process when what I really wanted was her honesty and affection... and her honest affection. Just as a friend, even, if it came to that. I've been falling in love with her. Just kissing her makes me happy. I want to treat her right, like the woman she is and the woman she will become, and I think that may be good enough to be forever.

N.O.E. (Age 21), Brookline, MA

THIS IS FOR ALLLLL THE LADIES. If you meet the "right" guy, and he asks to have sex which u... say "no" because he's prolly being nice to you to use your body..you know? have sex with a guy that u had a longggggggg relationship with or after you get married.

MR (Age 12), Lowell

I went out with this boy for 8 months and we were in a relationship where no sexual contact was involved. We hugged when we seen each other and talked on the phone a lot. Then around the 6th month, he started changing I asked what was up. He was saying that he wasn't seeing someone else. But, I got proof, because his friend put him on 3 way and put him on the spot while I was silent on the phone. I confonted him many times, but he kept saying ,"What are u talking about?" After that he wanted to have sex with me, but I told him I was a virgin and if I don't hear the word love in a relationship, than don't even think about it. And pretty soon he started saying "I love you" on the phone. And finally on the 10th month we broke up and the next day he went out with a girl who I knew. And that girl was the same girl his boy and him was talking about on the phone :0.

LW (Age 15), Bronx, Ny

I had a really strong crush on a guy for a little over a year. Only my friends knew about it. I thought he was different than most guys these days. He has a lot going for him. Turned out that he wasn't different. In fact he turned out to be more of a jerk than anything. He tried to talk me into flashing him and even metioned sex once. I'm glad I know my limits and said no. Thank God that I said no, because it turns out that he doesn't like me and didn't like me then. He tried to use me only for his enjoyments. I'm so glad that I'm over him.

, Boston, MA

I went to my uncle's party with my family in the summer. I met my mom's friend's son who I knew when we were little. Then later on he came up to me and said he wanted to make out, but I decided to say no. So ever since then I heard he has forgotten about me from my cousin. I was glad I made the right decision that day and I made a promise to myself that I won't let any guy take advantage of me. 8]

MKH (Age 13), lowell,MA

I met this guy at summer camp and he was a total stud. At 15, he was the hottest guy I had ever laid eyes on. When he came up to me and asked if I wanted to go to the dance with him, I was in awe- it was crazy that he chose me and not all the other girls at camp. We [were both under the influence] at the dance, but I remember [having oral sex with him]. It was one of the worst experiences of my life. I couldn't talk to my friends for the rest of camp. They all found out, though, because he told all his friends. I will always regret it and I have abstained ever since. Its been 10 years since then and now at 22 I am getting married. This man repects what I want and knows my limits. I feel like I finally have true love.

NF (Age 22), Boston, MA

One Saturday night I was over my friend's house and we was talking about boys. I talked to her about how my ex and I was, because she knew I liked him a lot...So one Friday evening I made a stupid choice. My ex and I got to talkin' and I had sex with him because I thought in my head, "He really likes me. We had been together for 3 years and 6 months, so why not do anything with him?"...So long story short, after that I found out he was messing around with a lot of other girls. I never heard from him after that until we ran into each other. He tried to talk to me again, but I just ignored him.

J.C (Age 16), Roxbury MA

I liked my guy a lot up until one day when things went wrong. It all started when we started dating- it was great and everything. I thought that we were going to be together for awhile, but i thought wrong. One day when i was at his house after school, we were making out and things went too far. He [initiated non-intercourse sexual activity]. After that happened, I thought that our relationship would be closer, but yet again, i thought wrong. Instead of us getting closer, our realtionship got worse. He started to get farther and farther apart. He started to verbally abuse me and threaten me. I started to get tired of it and eventually broke up with him. I really regret doing that [sexual activity] with him because when i look back at our relationship, it wasn't a really healthy relationship. To this day I don't talk to him now.

A.G. (Age 14), Chelsea, MASS

I have never had sex or done anything sexual before. One day a girl asked me [to have sex with her] and I told her "no" because I am still a teenager. She said that she would give me a cell phone [if I had sex with her]. But I told her if was the way to get a phone I don't think I will get one.

abstain (Age 13), Lowell MA

Heres my story....I met my boyfriend three years ago through my bestfriend and we've had our ups and downs while being together on and off, but it's been worth it. My boyfriend's been there for me during times when my best friend wasn't and I love him sooooo much. We're still going strong, although sometimes more than others, but we still make each other happy (without having sex). I Love My BabyBoo!!! & Always Will.

tok (Age 17), Dorchester, Ma

I REMEBER ONCE WHEN I WAS AT A PARTY, MY FRIENDS WERE TRYING TO GET ANOTHER FRIEND OF MINE TO HAVE SEX WITH A BOY SHE JUST MET. AT THE TIME I COULD TELL SHE WAS NERVOUS...SHE KEPT LOOKING TOWARDS US FOR A DECISION. BUT WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO IT, IT'S NOT YOUR FRIENDS THAT YOU NEED TO TURN TO WHEN IT COMES TO SEX. SHE DID THE RIGHT THING BY CHOOSING NOT TO HAVE SEX WITH THAT BOY. I WAS PROUD OF HER. DON'T BE UNDER THE INFLUENCE, STAY ABOVE IT.

*KHF* (Age 14), BOSTON MASS

One day in mid-March I was supposed to go to basketball practice after school, but then I skipped it because my boyfriend wanted me to go over to his house. I went over and he told me to [perform oral sex]. I did, but then he took it too far and we had [vaginal] sex. Later he broke up with me and ended up with my best friend. I regret it… I still see him around school, but it hurts me seeing him with my best friend. We are no longer friends.

JS (Age 14),

My boyfriend told me to meet him after school at his house he also told me to wear something that could slip off easily. So I did but I didn't really understand what was going on. When I asked, he said it was a "suprise". To make a long story short we ended up having sex. After that he said that he loved me but that our relationship just couldn't be, and he left me. After that day I felt so dirty and used, that I never talked to him again. Now, every night I cry and think about the fact that I got used by my own boyfriend.

L.M (Age 15), Lawrence Massachusetts

ya i did it, I had sex. At his house. It was scary but i didnt care i wanted him to like me more. How could i just walk away when i promised i would do it? it hurt so much. but it felt good to him. i dont care what you think but all i know is now im sitting in the waiting room at the clinic writting down names and crying because i found out that i was just practice for him.

TA (Age 13), Somerville Massachusetts

This Summer I met a guy who I thought was a very nice guy. He was 16 and within two days we fell in love. I wanted to be with him every single second of the summer. At that time I had never even been kissed but for some reason I believed him when he told me everything would be fun. By the end of the Summer we were having Sex almost every other day. The problem is that he lives in a different state than me. We haven't talked now in over 2 weeks and I am getting worried. I feel disgusting and I can't even look in a mirror. I can't believe I did something so horrible to my Body. I wish I was still was a virgin. My parents found out and now they want to kick me out of their house. I cry every night.

sl (Age 14),

I think everyone who shared their personal stories on this web site is so brave because it takes alot of guts to be honest and tell your business that way just to save other teens from making the same mistake so thank you because I've learned a lot.

RP (Age 16), Boston, MA

Hey, I would like to tell you all something, I'm 13 and i'm still a virgin and i'm waiting till i'm married because it's the best thing you can give to your husband on your wedding night. And it's a lot better to wait to have sex with the person you wanna be with the rest of your life. I hope this helps some teens out there!

SK (Age 13),

Hey!!!!!!!!!! this is to all the teenagers outside especially tha girls!!!! im 14 dont give your body to no boy thats just going 2 use u!! wait till your married so u can give it to your husband.

J.G (Age 14), Dorchester

i was going out with this boy who was 15 and im 14. we was doing a good job in our relationship but then he wanted to go further so we did. after we was done his whole attitude changed and he started acting funny. it made me feel like thats all he wanted me for. i felt a little used but then i thought of it as my fault because all i had to do was say no. he told me he loved me so i did what i had to do to prove i love him too. i guess love is blind because things didnt work out but we still are friends...i regret doing what i did...

sp (Age 14), boston ma

I liked this boy, but I didn't know if he liked me or not so one day he came up to me and asked me out. I accepted to go out with him. Then, one day I went to his house and we were all alone. He told me to go to his room with him and said we have been in this relationship for a while...Don't you think it is time to have sex? I said no, but he told me how much he loved me and that if I have sex with him, that will prove that I love him. So I had sex with him and two months later I found out I was pregnat with his baby. He was so irresponsible and he denied the baby was his. I ended up having a miscarrige and i lost my boyfriend.

A M (Age 13), BOSTON MASSACHUSETTS

Well, I am not a virgin. This is my story: Back in Novenber I met this girl. Now this girl wasn't any old typical girl, she had the whole package. We knew eachother for about 2 weeks before we had sex. Me being the "spontaneous" guy I am, I decided not to use a condom. It's been a few months and she is telling me that she is pregnant. For some odd reason I don't believe her. Why? I don't know. I am writing this to tell you NOT to have SEX until you are married. When you get married, you will NOT have to WORRY about these types of things.

C.N.A. (Age 16), Dorchester, Massachusetts

I always thought I would wait. Nothing could stop me. I knew how to say no....but then the day came and I was pressured into it. I had oral sex at age 13 with this guy who was just a friend, nothing else and nothing ever to be. But the guy I told (my best friend that I liked and who liked me too) wished I hadn't told him and won't talk to me....I finally understand what regret is and why I should wait. This is one thing I regret. How will I get this guy to know and trust me again? This is a story about regret and I am going to wait till marriage to decide to do it again...This messed up my life and now my life is hard and no matter how hard I try, it will take time (a detour in my life thats is big and hard to fix).

AB (Age 13), lowell,ma

I was going out with this boy for a month and he told me that he loved me and that he want to be with me. Part of me didn't believe him and a part of me did. I really liked him. One day he calls me over to his house and that day I went. When I got over there he told me that he wanted to have a baby with me, so we had sex. It's been awhile... now I'm 15 with a 2 year old baby girl and her father is no longer in her life.

J.M (Age 15), boston, mass

My boyfriend was so kind to me; he would say a lot of sweet things. Then one day, we were both alone in his room he started kissing me and telling me "I love you baby". Well then he started getting physical. I was afraid to say no because I didn’t want him to think that I was too childish or stupid or something like that. Well the next day I was waiting for his call, which never came. I started calling and calling, but he never picked up my calls. Now I regret letting him do that to me. If I could bring the past back I would say "no", without caring about what he thinks of me.

C.G (Age 14), Lawrence Ma

i once went out with this cute boy. he was 17. he said he loved me. we would talk on the phone every day. i loved him so much and i felt bad when he broke up with me. i know we didn't spend a lot of time together, but he would always ask me when were going 2 have sex. thank god i didn't have sex with him! i feel great that i didn't have sex.

J.G (Age 14), dorchester,MA

just 2 weeks ago me and my friend were at her cousin's house. we went to this boyz house and i was supposed to have sex with this boy- the only reason why i was going to do it was because of peer preasure. but something in my mind said that i didn't have to do it because i'm my own person and i make my choices and having sex wasn't my choice. thats when i realized that the time will come when i'm ready- not when someone tells me to. you make the choice to have sex not your friends or ya man

wrc (Age 15), boston massachuestts

I knew this girl for 2 years. She had already had sex before. Well we decided to have sex one night and she hasn't talked to me since. She asked me [to have sex with her] and I had no idea she wanted to prior to that. It was very spur the moment. Makes me wish I had waited. I was only 17. Spur of the moment is not the way you want to remember having sex the first time.

DP (Age 18), Stoneham MA

This past summer I met one of my brother's friends, who I became very friendly with over a short period of time. Before I met him I was in a relationship for about eight months. In this relationship I had not done anything sexual, because I had set limits and I respected myself. However, upon meeting this new boy I began to do things I had not done with my boyfriend--things which should have been done with someone I knew for a longer period of time. I lost my virginity to my brother's friend this summer, and I regret it with a passion! If I could live it all again I would change many things. I would change many things to give myself a second chance. As we all know, our actions alter the outcome of our lives.

A.E. (Age 18), Quincy Massachusets

It WaZ a HoT sUmMeR..So Me N mY bOyFriEnD wEnT 2 hIz HoUsE...wE sTaRtEd KiSsIn N tHeN We GoT fUrThEr N wE EnDeD uP hAvEn SeX...N nOw We BrOkE uP n We DoN't TaLk No MoRe..TiLl ThIs dAy i rEgReT tHaT wE hAd SeX!!!

K.L. (Age 13), Lynn,Ma

i am 19 years old, i lost my virginity about two months ago, the guy was great, he promised he wasn't going to leave me after we had sex, he acted like he loved me. All of a sudden he changed, now he dosen't call me as often, and he is not as sweet as he was before. In the time i got to know him i fell madly in love with him. Now i still talk to him, but i don't know if he loves me or not. i wish i had waited a little more, at least until i was sure he really loves me. My plans were to wait until marriage. i was really close, but things can change in a minute, so you really have to be strong, because it's NOT easy to wait.

A M (Age 19), boston Ma

i had a boyfriend that was a couple years older than me. He was pushing me to do something i didnt want to do and i got tired of him asking me. So i told him "ok, i will do it", so we had sex. I wish i never did it cause now i got a kid. my mom is taking care of it for me. Now i have to take care of a baby and still go to school. Now i know to say no.

(Age 13), boston, ma

When I was 15, I was in a long relationship with a guy who was a year older. One day he met me at his locker and said that since we have been going out for awhile, he thinks we should go all the way. So we did. I never heard from him again.

AC (Age 16), Lawrence, Ma